Proverb meaning that a dispute or conflict is never just one person's fault and requires both sides to participate

To clap one's hands; to applaud.

slap across the face with the palm of the hand

literally "to give a slap then offer a sweet date"; to treat someone harshly and then offer a small favor or consolation as a way to manage them

(regional) to let go of one's hold; to stop doing something; to deliberately shirk one's responsibility