to bring worry or trouble upon oneself through one's own actions or stubbornness

To irritate someone or drive them up the wall; to cause someone to feel worried or troubled.

Proverb meaning that taking on unnecessary responsibilities or forcing oneself into a situation leads to worry and trouble; often used to advise against being a busybody or overreaching, originally appearing in Yuan dynasty dramas such as Maling Dao and Lianhuan Ji

to offer condolences or express sympathy for someone's misfortune