tīng​qí​yán'ér​guān​qí​xíng

judge someone by their actions

Senses

听其言而观其行/ 聽其言而觀其行 tīng​qí​yán'ér​guān​qí​xíng (also tīng​qí​yán'ér​guān​qí​xìng) judge someone by their actions

listen to a person's words but also observe their behavior; to judge a person not just by what they say but by what they actually do

References

see 听其言而观其行/聽其言而觀其行 言行一致/言行一致