verb · to affect shyness or behave in an affectedly coy manner

在这里都是老朋友，你就别拿捏了。

verb · to grasp, control, or handle (both literally and figuratively)

他说话很有分寸，拿捏得恰到好处。

verb · to deliberately create difficulties or use a position of power to threaten someone

由于手中握有审批权，他经常故意拿捏别人。